Abolishing Systemic Codependency

The ultimate goal of recovery is to empower individuals to become self-reliant and personally productive. Becoming resourceful givers rather than dependent takers is at the core of our recovery. 

On Memorial Day, I heard again the famous clip by President John F. Kennedy, And so, my fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you -- ask what you can do for your country. Brilliant!

Being in debt is a form of slavery. The Apostle Paul said flatly, Owe no one anything, except to love only. Romans 13:8

Feeling sorry about slavery and trying to assess blame is only human. Creating a freedom plan and rigorously committing ourselves to it, changes our circumstances and the mentality associated with it. Someone else cannot substitute our taking responsibility for making the hard decisions. They can model it, but they cannot do it for us.

Helping others is part of our calling as Christians. However, we need to use discernment and wisdom before doling out resources indiscriminately.

There are two books I read that speak to this issue. Dead Aid - Why Aid is Not Working and How There is a Better Way for Africa (2009) by Economist Dambisa Moyo from Zambia and Toxic Charity - How Churches and Charities Hurt Those They Help (2011) by Robert D. Lufton. Brace yourself for a challenge to American co-dependency!

What does all this have to do with addiction in America? Everything! Addiction is a form of slavery that leads to poverty. Those who allow the impoverished addicted person to become dependent on them will eventually experience financial slavery themselves. Additionally, this mentality perpetuates the very condition of addiction we want to eliminate. It is a vicious cycle, but it can be broken if we all are willing and courageous. 

The remedy for addiction is…

1. Recognizing our God-given potential and opportunity

2. Refusing to blame others

3. Taking responsibility and ownership for ourselves

4. Making the hard decisions above the way we currently feel.

Anything less is a repetition of the same failed system that reflects a $442 billion annual expense among Americans with a meager 3 to 5% return in terms of permanent recovery.

Partnering with DFM brings a message of liberty to the captives. It is an initial step you can take in changing mentalities, thereby abolishing addiction. DFM provides answers from the inside out, from the bottom to the top. Thank You for volunteering your support to get this message out where it is needed most!